IMaadhyaam
I am Back with “IMaadhyaam (IMpact Maadhyaam)". Our initiatives were formulated with an intention to work with and uplift all those who have lost belief, trust and purpose, through ‘The Silent Architects of the Society – Women’, the Maadhyaam whose IMpact is profound in everyone’s life but she is always left behind.”
The chaos in our mind starts from the childhood when our elders feel it as an obligation to teach the children the basics of life…obviously that continues till the end of our lives. And there is nothing wrong in that but in that dilemma, others sometimes forget to understand perspectives different from theirs and hinder the natural growth process.
IM Ramya, a single mother who has been alarmed off-late by the way my two boys have been concealing their emotions as a misguided attempt to display strength because “Men don’t express their feelings”.
We all have heard the phrases right for children
Boys : “Toughen up”, “Boys don’t cry like girls” ;
Girls : “Show your emotions” ; “Its okie to cry, you are not a boy” ;
Crying and expressing one is a natural emotional response. When a child is exposed to such thoughts, they lose touch with their feelings which has a long term and lasting effects on their mental health and their relationships. Such notions lead to negative thought process and also harmful indulgences that assist in escaping the unnecessary emotional baggage.
- IM teaching my boys that it’s OKAY to express emotions and cry,
- IM teaching them that showing anger is not strength, expressing sadness is not weakness,
- IM teaching them ways to understand their emotional landscape and embrace their feelings.
IM the ERA, that believes emotions and feelings (positive and negative) makes us human. Let’s teach our children to understand their feelings and validate them that will bring self-awareness, build their self-esteem, develop interpersonal skills and become empathetic.
IM going to resolve the “Ulajhan” for my children by listening to them and create a positive IMpact in their lives.
While Ramya has her concerns on the emotional well-being on of the children Dr. Sapna – Educationist explains a simple concept of Mind-Body Connection
MIND-BODY CONNECTION...
Another aspect that is important to address when talking about emotional triggers is, “Where do you feel it in your body when you have the emotion?”
Talking about where you feel things in your body further establishes the mind-body connection and brings in a new piece of information you can use to help yourself find balance.
The next time your children complains that it makes mad when the brother/sister takes his/her stuff. Or, that it makes them really upset when someone won’t talk to them…
A simple question of “Where do you feel that in your body?” will give your children access to understanding themselves even better, the more they’ll be able to tap into their inner wisdom – it will guide them to the responses that are the best fit for the moment.
(At IMaadhyaam, we are inspired by each other and believe we are stronger together. We are the Strong, Bold, Independent and Passionate women aiming to bring the change in our and other lives.
Ramya is currently following her aspiration and exploring entrepreneurship with us.
Dr. Sapna is advising and adding value to our initiatives with her expertise in the field of Education.)