IMaadhyaam
I am Back with “IMaadhyaam (IMpact Maadhyaam)". Our initiatives were formulated with an intention to work with and uplift all those who have lost belief, trust and purpose, through ‘The Silent Architects of the Society – Women’, the Maadhyaam whose IMpact is profound in everyone’s life but she is always left behind.”
I have always been scared.
Although a part of me always wanted to be bold, valiant and a savior of the mankind. Like many of us I dreamt with open eyes about days when the humanity will be under duress and I would sweep out the fear from minds of ordinary beings and help them have faith in a higher being. I dreamt of coming out as a hero who everyone would like but would not care for publicity or attention.
The fear in my heart, I feel, was outcome of my upbringing. I, like many others, was brought up to be fearful of thugs, thieves, rowdies, police, lawyers, animals, teachers, law, crazy aunts and uncles, unknown unseen bad spirits, omens, gods and demons alike.
I am generally a law abiding citizen and a god fearing individual. That on the one hand gave some peace of mind to my parents knowing that I would always refrain from getting involved in any type of mess and may be it did.
But the world is not fair and square as all of us want it to be. There are people who feed on your fear. They try to take advantage of every situation where you get drowned in your own fear and decide to not fight for yourself.
On one hand where this fear kept me away from all the trouble, it made me doubt myself every single time I did not stand up to defend myself. I always found a thousand smart and aggressive responses to the situation in my head but I never used them and decided to walk away meekly. And one day, I realized that enough was enough. Better today, that I get rid of my fears than live in fear for the rest of my life and pass on the same fear to the next generation.
It is such a pity that we are not taught to be fearless since our childhood.
It took me almost 30 years of my life to convince myself that I can get over my fears. I decided that I will teach myself to be fearless in situations which I dreaded to be in earlier. For example, even if I had all documents for my car, I would still fear a traffic cop stopping me. I would become extra polite and then feel bad about it later. As it’s said, for any fear one wants to overcome – you need to take the first step and then keep going ahead. My first step was accepting my fear and then writing the worst possible scenario that can happen if I act and respond, every time I regretted not overcoming the fear and having taken the step – the irreparable loss. So, I started reminding myself of the loss as an outcome if I do not overcome my fear. I started with small things and today I have learnt to look in their eyes now and pass without a hiccup.
There are many such situations which require just a little bit of courage for them to pass, I am teaching myself to stand my ground. I am not scared anymore and I will never fear anything.
At the end no matter what, life or death, success or failure if I can’t live fearless, then what’s the point of life anyways . It was yesterday that I should have started all this, but today is not too late to start.
(Monika Sharma, Company Secretary by profession and my close friend – the friendship which has survived the tides. It was a general discussion when she came up and asked that she wants to share her already published article in one of the CS Journal. And I could not be happier – personally hoping her to be a regular contributor…
Well, Fear is an illusion and each one of us have it and all of us adapt to various modes to overcome the same . All it takes is the
FIRST STEPS
..
….
and then BABY STEPS
……
………
To FACE EVERYTHING and RISE
KYONKI DAARRRRR KE AAGGGGEEEE JEEEEEEEEEETTTT hai !!!)